This might be long and also a bit of a brain dump... my thoughts aren't massively clear right now.
I have been with my DH for over 10 years. Have a two year old boy who is very hard work- spirited is the polite way of putting it!
I was made redundant earlier this year and we used the opportunity to relocate closer to my family. He was happy to do this and always knew I wanted to move closer to my family (I moved away with him because of his work requirements).
The move hadn't been easy- left a lot of friends behind and a nursery where my ds was thriving. DH also left a job he loved. DS' behaviour has got worse and he isn't settling well at nursery. DH does not like his new job but it's not easy to just get another one as he is a teacher. I feel like I have the best of the situation as I love my new job and get to see lots of DM and my dsis.
My dh really hates his new school and has a long commute too. My ds' behaviour drives him mad and although he tries his best he gets angry and frustrated - some times I think too easily. He makes passive aggressive comments which really annoy me. He seems to be turning into a grumpy old man at just 35. Everything annoys him or pissues him off. We both drink too much and I want to change that.
Today after a stand off with toddler about having a nap dh took himself off to his room to play on the pc and I had a few minutes to myrself with ds and for the first time I thought maybe life would be better just me and him... I feel awful for even thinking it.
My DH used to make me laugh like mad, I fancied him like crazy. Now I don't know what I feel.
He is trying with ds and with me. He took him out to do the food shop and came back with my favourite choc as a little gift and said 'I know how things are but I am trying'.
Things just seem like hard work all the time. We keep talking about having another baby as we would have liked DS to have a sibling but I am scared it may make things worse.
Has anyone else come through the other side of this? We have been through a heck of a lot together and I don't want our marriage to fail but I want to be happy too and right now I don't really feel it. Can anyone help? I know stopping drinking is part of the solution as I will at least think more clearly
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marriage struggles- has any one come back from the brink?
walkerandtexasranger · 25/10/2016 15:11
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