First things first I am a regular MN user but I've set up a new account just for this issue because I want it completely separate.
I was dating a chap long distance for close to 2 years. We broke up after he didn't show up for a much planned weekend and had allegedly had a mini stroke (If you remember my post please don't link it) I believed him but I was furious I hadn't been told for 5 days yet other people had. Basically I was last to know.
Anyway, last few months have been OK. I broke off the relationship but didn't remove him from my life, we still talk etc but I have moved on. I'm dating someone else right now.
He tried to rekindle things and I refused but was happy to remain friends - I am friends with several exes so this really isn't weird for me.
over the weekend he cropped up in my FB suggestions. Only it wasn't the account I was 'friends' with its his other account. One he said he didn't have because he doesn't use FB. He'd been posting on there from at least 2011 so not a replacement one.
I've had a look obviously and the arsehole is married!! The account he spoke to me from only has his work colleagues whereas the other has more people iyswim.
I'm flipping between rage, grief and complete devastation because the last 2 years are now all a lie. The promises were false. The plans to have children, I dodged a massive bullet there, the talk of getting married, we'd even shopped for rings.
The mini stroke from the car accident, the job loss, the other reasons for not visiting... They didn't happen did they?
I let this man bond with my DS too. My DS is still angry we broke up and keeps asking for him.
I'm even more angry. Angry I was led on. Angry I let my DS become attached..
I'm trying so so hard right now not to tell his wife.
Will it get better?
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help me make sense of this please.
hitwitharock · 24/10/2016 16:33
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