There's a long back story here but will try and be brief.
My mum has a long history of being bipolar and an alcoholic. She was a single parent and I'm an only child so, as you can imagine, my childhood was pretty awful. Thankfully my grandparents lived nearby and they often came to the rescue. By the time I was 14 I lived with them pretty much full time but was a bit of a mess and it's taken me a long time to get over it all.
Fast forward to now and my mum is 3 years sober after a rehab stint. She very nearly drank herself to death and I'm not really sure how she survived to be honest. She also seems to be suffering from dementia, probably caused by her drinking, but no formal diagnosis. It's relatively advanced - finances in a total mess, can't remember what she did 30 minutes ago, endless conversations about the same thing.
Anyway, onto the AIBU bit. I'm just really struggling to care about her. Does that me awful?? I'm currently staying at her house (which is bringing back horrible anxiety I haven't felt since I was a teenager) and tomorrow we have dr, psych and bank appointments. She's in frequent floods of tears about it all and I just can't help but think 'this is your fault, you've done it to yourself'. I know she couldn't help being mentally ill and that alcoholism is a disease, but she was so awful when I was a kid but now I have to help her?!
Has anyone ever experienced anything like this and can offer any words of wisdom?
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AIB awful? Finding it hard to help very ill mother.
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birdybirdbird · 23/10/2016 21:58
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