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Have I came on too strong?

(12 Posts)
Louisajohnson224 Sun 23-Oct-16 20:24:52

Started dating a new guy.
Went on 4 dates,we haven't had sex yet.
The other night I invited him into mine and we kissed and cuddled etc but then he left as he had work next day.
An hour ago we were texting and I showed him a pic of me years ago with blonde hair and he replied "Oooh kinky ha ha"
So I responded " don't need to be blonde to be kinky ;-)"
Then anyway it got on to me saying "could of showed you my kinky side the other night but you dashed off"
He responded " well you owe me then ;-)"
So I said " it's finding a opportunity"
Then he said " don't worry man,it will happen"

I'm worried I've scared him off by coming on too strong..

crayfish Sun 23-Oct-16 20:32:25

I don't think you have come on too strong just let him know that you are up for it I suppose. Bit odd that he called you 'man' (doesn't seems very sexy or romantic) but maybe that's just how he talks?

ALaughAMinute Sun 23-Oct-16 20:34:45

You're overthinking it. He sounds keen. Enjoy!

Louisajohnson224 Sun 23-Oct-16 20:36:03

Yeah he is Geordie and pretty much says man in every single sentence ha ha.
I think I just wanted him to know that I want it to head down that road as up until date 3 he hadn't kissed me..it was only after I said you can kiss me,that's when he started.
He seems like a really decent guy tbh

Louisajohnson224 Sun 23-Oct-16 20:36:28

I'm a massive massive over thinker

JoJoSM2 Sun 23-Oct-16 20:41:28

A normal guy who likes you, wouldn't get scared off. However, I'd probably take it easy as he doesn't seem to want to go at the same pace. Just don't get paranoid and talk to him about it.

ALaughAMinute Sun 23-Oct-16 20:45:09

Some guys are a bit shy and need telling.

Myusernameismyusername Sun 23-Oct-16 20:53:47

Lou you are a massive other thinker!
He so likes you
Go with the flow woman grin

M00nUnit Sun 23-Oct-16 20:55:26

He said "it will happen" - he's obviously keen! Exciting!

Louisajohnson224 Sun 23-Oct-16 20:58:16

I'm going to have a glass of wine and stop thinking ha ha ..

Myusernameismyusername Sun 23-Oct-16 20:59:22

It's an order young lady grin

Louisajohnson224 Mon 24-Oct-16 10:31:01

Phew ..don't think it put him off.
We are off to the cinema tonight and he is talking about a day out to York next weekend.

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