Backstory my ex and I split up a year and a half ago. At first we spoke quite regularly about our son I think it was the process of drawing away from eachother however he was very unreliable and ea. After Christmas we had a massive blow up because he saw me with another man at this point we had been split for 9 months.
Since then things havent been great tbh and he sees our son every other weekend from saturday afternoon until Sunday evening. So twice a month contact and in between he doesnt call our son. He hasnt come to parents evening or to our sons assemblies and I have just tried to keep things as calm as possible for my DS and not mentioning anything.
He asked around a month and a half ago to take our son one evening a week. I slept on it and messaged him saying yes what day works best and to let me know. To this day i have never received acknowledgement or a reply to the message.
Well a few weeks ago I was called into school because my DS is struggling and showing very early signs of dyslexia. His father has dyslexia and can relate to difficulties with reading. I messaged him and asked him to contact me as the school had concerns about our son. I didnt call because I didnt want to pressure him to talk about it when he was busy or was working or had one of his famous headaches he always seems to get when we have to discuss our son. I never received a response that was now over 3 weeks ago.
He very often shouts and swears when he doesnt get his own way and I was sworn and shouted at last week because our son had stayed with a school friend when I had an emergency at work. When I spoke to him before he was shouting I told him about our sons difficulties and he said he had noticed some things himself. And said he never received the message. When he dropped our son off I told him when the meeting was at his school the time and date. He didnt ask for any more information.
Well I have had the meeting at school and no contact with him has happened he didnt message or call to ask about it or call our son during the week.
I know some nrp dont like calling their children when theyre not with them. That wouldnt be my decision and it upsets our son but I cant control his actions.
Question is do I contact him and let him know what has happened? What was discussed and what will happen going forward or do i just leave it. Im really struggling with this and I dont know why. Its not about us its that I want him to take an interest in our sons life. Do i bother to contact or just leave it? Also he is 2 weeks late with our sons after and before school fees the only money I receive and only in term time.
I cant bore my friends and family with this any more.
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Needmorehours · 22/10/2016 20:21
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