Hello, i am new to this website so please forgive me if the post doesn't follow the rules but I am desperate for some 3rd party honest opinion.
I am 36 weeks pregnant of our second child, have been married 10 years and he is a great husband overall. His family live in Asia and he hasn't seen them for 2 years, was meant to go and see them this November but had to postpone due to baby arriving.
He is planning to go in January for three weeks when our baby will be two months old depending on when he/she arrives and we have no family or close friends around that could help me when he is away. I understand he wants to use his annual leave before the end of the financial year and his cousin is getting married at that time too but I am somehow crossed he is going on a 3 weeks holiday to the other side of the world when baby is so small. No one in his family sees this as a problem and i should be able to manage fine on my own with a newborn while my friends and family say this is unreasonable and selfish and he should check his priorities in life.
If i speak to him he will get angry and accuse me of not loving his family, being unreasonable, jealous and depriving him of his freedom etc. and his family will think i am a manipulative witch keeping him away from them. If he doesn't go he will begrudge me and remind me of the time of when i didn't let him go to see his mum forever. I now actually want him to go but resent him for deciding to go without even asking me if i minded.
He has never been away for more than two weeks and a bit before and this will be his longest time away since we are together, I have asked him to go for two weeks instead but he is not keen 'too far and the wedding itself will take a week' so he wouldn't have time to catch up with family properly'.
Has anyone has ever been in a similar situation?
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Keepswimming21 · 21/10/2016 09:26
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