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Too late to report..what's the point?...or move on?

(4 Posts)
onanotherday Wed 19-Oct-16 11:33:18

Ok am steaming mad at the moment having been told by sbxh that he has others to pay as well as me and kids. So will just pay under half what he should
... and has been out of work/country for last 9 months and paid nothing. Since he left 4 years ago dribs and drabs..mainly due to his MH. But I can't take this much more...
I know i have to suck it up. Hes walked away from huge debt...put all in my name as he was a student....left us really strughling and i have no family to speak of or credit to help. But what has begun to hit home is the abuse we want through. I know I should move on but it's times like this it hurts the most!!
Now i see that towards the end he was abusive and has since been diagniosed with personality disorder and bipolar. .
Sorry for rant but watching kids sleeping on matresses on cold concert floors is hard especially after a 20 year marriage. I'm so very greatful for our little council house but feel vengeful at times...reporting the abuse will help no on now....thanks for listening. ...will plod on😕

whattodowiththepoo Wed 19-Oct-16 12:01:30

On another day this anger fear pain and suffering won't even exist because you will have your beautiful children and a life you have worked incredibly hard to earn.

ikeawrappingpaper Wed 19-Oct-16 12:03:13

If reporting it will help you then do it. Personally I have found it helpful beyond belief to open up about what me and the DC have lived through to police and other agencies and get their views on it. Also I have been referred to a domestic violence support agency who have in turn got me access to other support resources, like specialised counselling for e.g.
I don't know what you've been through, but you may like to know that while for common assault (where there was no injury) there is a limit of 6 months for police prosecution, for assault where there were injuries and for sexual assault there is not a time limit.
Good luck whatever you choose.

hellsbellsmelons Wed 19-Oct-16 14:31:44

I think it depends on the abuse as well.
Have you checked out freecycle in your local area or freebay (on facebook)?
I often give away old furniture on there and there's often stuff that is good that might be OK for you?

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