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Need urgent help with my ex boyfriend :(

(7 Posts)
Gracey1231 Mon 17-Oct-16 22:59:04

Me and my LDR ex broke up in august after a huge argument that resulted in him saying his feelings have changed. We lived two hours train ride away and saw eachother every weekend.

The last time me and the ex spoke about the relationship he was saying it's hard for him and me saying I had feelings doesn't make it easier. He's focusing on religion now and I asked if we'd get a second chance and he said "I can't predict the future but wouldn't think so" he wants to be "friends"
This isn't something I agreed to and he was made aware of it.
My ex is very straightforward and if it was definitely no he would say.

Anyway, that was last month, start of this month he's been texting me every week! And talking about memories and the past, inside jokes we had. Asking me a lot of questions about what I'm doing etc. Told him I'd dyed my hair and he asked to see it. As far as I know he still has a photo of us up in his bedroom.

Like as soon as I've left him alone he's messaging me and has told so many people he doesn't want/isn't ready to be with another girl.

I don't tend to reply because it sets me moving on back, and these old inside jokes are dead to me now like. He text on Monday asking if I was okay and I replied this morning and he goes "yeah I'm fine was trying to talk lol"

My ex isn't the sort to do this through boredom or keeping me on the back burner, he is a serious Xbox addict and doesn't get bored of playing it, he is very independent minded so can't think of why he's doing this.

Could someone give me an insight into this behaviour because to me it's really weird.

Tl;dr ex giving me weird messages on text what does he want

TheNaze73 Mon 17-Oct-16 23:03:08

He's just keeping you on the back burner. Pay him any great detail of attention & he'll recoil

Arfarfanarf Mon 17-Oct-16 23:04:56

He probably likes to feel you will come running if he chooses to click his finger.

JustSpeakSense Mon 17-Oct-16 23:10:10

He likes the chase, show him
any sort of attention and he'll go cold on you again. He wants you interested for his own ego.

Also Xbox addict....hmm bin him, you can do so much better!

Gracey1231 Tue 18-Oct-16 00:16:58

He knows I won't chase him and he wouldn't keep me on the back burner I know that for sure haha.
Thanks everyone. So fed up of being confused

DarklyDreamingDexter Tue 18-Oct-16 00:52:41

Move on. Be 'busy' when he asks what you're up to. Show him there is life without him - and it's fun. Don't be someone's back up plan/fall back.

fanniboz Tue 18-Oct-16 02:00:58

Block/delete his number, stop replying completely, give him absolutely nothing. He's just keeping you as an option

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