I am separating from my husband. It was my decision which he has now more or less accepted, and we're moving on. I have several good friends to support me, STBXH doesn't have many, most close is his best friend. He's moving to live near him when we sell up next month.
The best friend (BF) comes to my town for business quite often, and stayed over with us. I've always got on ok with him, we are in the same line of work and it can be nice to talk shop. Since STBXH and I decided to split I haven't had contact with BF until last night when he texted me to ask how I was. It was lateish, about 11.30 but I don't sleep well and was pleased he wanted to stay in touch so we chatted by text for quite a while. He talked about travelling for his job, I talked about the house I'm moving to and said he could still stay over when he's in town for work. After a bit I felt a bit weird about the length of the chat and lateness so stopped answering. He texted again first thing today. He's said several times are you sure about me staying over and I've said yes fine.
Now something makes me feel a bit wary of this. I'm not sure why, it just feels a bit inappropriately close. I had a situation a long time ago when I let a make friend of my then partner stay over because he'd missed his last train, then heard he had expected me to have sex with him and was miffed I hadn't 😮! So I wonder if I have a tendency to be a bit naive. Am I overreacting to BF now, or would you feel weird about this too? I'm coming out of an abusive relationship and am exhausted trying to deal with the here and now, I don't know if I can trust my own instincts or judgement about men. What do you think?
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STBXH's best friend - am I overreacting?
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EElisavetaOfBelsornia · 16/10/2016 16:12
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