What would you think of this?

[MozzchopsThirty]

Talking to a man online, seemed normal then sent me a meme that said

'The only mark a man should leave on a woman'
With a picture of a woman's arse in a thong with a massive red hand print on her cheek!

Opinions??

[DoubleCarrick]

Are you into that kind of thing? That would dictate what your reply should be.

DH is gentle, loving, kind and caring but has given me a few consensual marks in our time together.

He's probably sussing you out. It's not for everybody. You can say "not my thing" or "sounds fun"

[crayfish]

I would run like the wind. Who on earth things that horrible sentiment is appropriate to send to a stranger? (Or anyone else for that matter)

Lucky escape for you.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

What did you think when you saw that?.

Hope you then finished the chat swiftly followed by blocking.

Just awful. Some men truly hate women, all of them.

[MozzchopsThirty]

To give it some context we weren't talking about sex
And after he said he was making a point about not being violent and hating anyone who is (again out of context)

I think it would have been entirely appropriate if you were in a relationship and sent it to your OH as you both know where you stand
To send it to a woman you haven't met?

[MozzchopsThirty]

I did say to him
'So it's ok to leave a mark on a woman as long as it's during sex and on her arse'

I love a bit of ass slapping with the right person at the right time but this set off a huge alarm

[crayfish]

How he thinks that is the right way to make a point about non-violence (and strange that he feels the need to do that at all, let alone at such an early stage) is beyond me?

In the context of a loving relationship or even a discussion about sex, ok maybe if that's your thing. But otherwise? No.

[MozzchopsThirty]

Crayfish my friend said exactly the same, what kind of man even needs to say that before a first date

[wonderingsoul]

The fact he said that hes against violance is a big red flag imo esp if it was out of no where and 9 out 10 times they turn out to abusive twats.

The picture itself wouldnt be offputting to me in the right context... if you where sexually flirting or in a good relationship.

[Costacoffeeplease]

Big red flag - denying violence when he hasn't been accused?

[angryangryyoungwoman]

He just threw it in, out of any context or relevant conversation. That is weird. I would not be happy with that

[ptumbi]

'denying violence when he hasn't been accused' - yep, def big red flag.

And suggesting that a man has the right to leave a mark on a woman's arse - so long as he isn't violent - is another red flag.

Doesn't sound like you'd get much choice in the arse slapping.

[Millionreasons]

Alarm bells going off big time. I think that's disgusting.

[TheNaze73]

Really depends what you're into. Wouldn't do it for me at all but, would appeal to others who are sub. Sounds like he's hugely misjudged this though

[ageingrunner]

I would assume that he was likely to be violent because if he wasn't the thought of it wouldn't have crossed his mind

[Yourface]

I would lose interest on the basis that he's using memes to communicate. He sounds like a meme loser.

[MozzchopsThirty]

Thanks all, I've already stopped talking to him

Another one bites the dust

[SomeonesRealName]

This is the marvellous thing about online dating you can so easily dump them and move on when they show their colours. Keep going OP till you find a nicer one x

[Simonneilsbeard]

I know the picture you're talking about OP, someone of my acquaintance posted it on Facebook recently and it made me feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure why, I didn't really analyse my feelings about it at the time but I didn't like it and I unfollowed the person who posted it ..the whole sentiment behind it was just 'off'. If someone I was speaking to online sent me that out of the blue i would be blocking them.

[Millionreasons]

Yes agree that the online chatting before you meet can tell you a lot about someone. Also talking on the phone. You can save yourself a lot of wasted time.