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Blonde hair and private browsing

(21 Posts)
mnaddict1 Sat 15-Oct-16 21:48:21

Hi all,

Long time lurker never posted before.

My husband is very senior in his company, was made redundant and reinstated (not sure that is actually relevant). He went back to work Monday. The business is In trouble and a woman has been seconded to help get things back on track- they are working very closely.

We had a family event Wednesday to attend so I picked him up. On his scarf was a long blonde hair and I used his phone to get the post code for where we were going- when I opened the browser it was set to private browsing. I am feeling uneasy about both. To avoid drip feeding I have anxiety and bipolar. Should i be worried?

mnaddict1 Sat 15-Oct-16 21:53:22

Bump as worried

Myusernameismyusername Sat 15-Oct-16 21:54:52

People usually use private browsing for watching porn. Does he do that?

I think the hair is not a solid basis for concern. Mine and my kids hair is a bloody nightmare, it gets everywhere. Ex dp once found one of my long hairs in his pants blush

If there are no other reasons not to trust him then I think maybe you are worrying about something that isn't there. Do you trust him?

JennyOnAPlate Sat 15-Oct-16 22:00:10

No I wouldn't be worried at all.

mnaddict1 Sat 15-Oct-16 22:02:36

Myusernameosmyusername I think I am
Being paranoid! My hair was very long but dark and is now chin length. My daughter has long blonde hair. He has watched porn before but is open about that. Don't know what to think. When in a hyper manic phase o have been unscrupulous and maybe that's colouring my view. Also my anxiety is making me worry but I have never had vu cerns about fidelity iyswim

AnchorDownDeepBreath Sat 15-Oct-16 22:02:49

I wouldn't worry about hair.... I have waist length blonde hair and I lose it everywhere. Literally. its fine and light so nobody notices it... it gets everywhere.

Private browsing isn't necessarily dodgy either, could be looking at porn or researching present ideas or anything.

How is your anxiety and bipolar at the moment? Do you feel one or both may be spiralling? Can you talk to him, would he be understanding and reassuring?

Myusernameismyusername Sat 15-Oct-16 22:04:34

I think you should tell him You feel anxious, not that you are accusing him just that maybe you are feeling stressed and worried and let him support you

mnaddict1 Sat 15-Oct-16 22:05:33

Anchordown my anxiety is pretty bad at the moment. Which is why I am asking. I can't really trust my feelings- don't worry I have self referred back to therapy (privately)

My husband is very supportive but I struggle to be open and honest with Those around me

HarrietVane99 Sat 15-Oct-16 22:05:57

I use private browsing because it lets me read beyond the limited number of free articles allowed by some journals and newspapers.

mnaddict1 Sat 15-Oct-16 22:06:23

My username thank you

mnaddict1 Sat 15-Oct-16 22:08:06

I would like to tell him how I feel... But after ten years of this shit I wonder if he has reached his limit. Going back would he have chosen me and all this hassle?

Temporaryanonymity Sat 15-Oct-16 22:10:07

My phone has accidentally been on private mode. I certainly didn't do it deliberately, it was just my clumsy fingers.

kilmuir Sat 15-Oct-16 22:10:20

You should be telling him if you can't get it out of your head.

mnaddict1 Sat 15-Oct-16 22:13:48

Yes I will have a talk with him. My bipolar and anxiety mean I have the tendency to catastrophise everything

MrHannahSnell Sat 15-Oct-16 22:24:44

Like Harriet I use private browsing to increase the number of articles I can read on newspaper sites. I wouldn't see that as suspicious in itself.

SleepingTiger Sat 15-Oct-16 22:44:36

I often find long blonde hairs on my suit. They stand out more than the shorter ones. And the brunette ones. I wear dark suits. They transmit onto me sometimes when I commute to work and back each day. They stick to the train seat fabric, and are often missed by the cleaners who are pushed for time.

I use Incognito Browsing. For reasons aforesaid. Also someone said to me you get less spam. Not sure about that, but instinctively I always open that mode.

SandyDenny Sat 15-Oct-16 22:52:14

I often hit private browser by mistake as its next to the new window on my phone and unless I look really closely I don't even notice.

I don't think from what you've posted that there are red flags

AlbertaDewdrop Sat 15-Oct-16 23:45:00

I managed to put my phone onto private browsing without realising. I thought there was something wrong with it as the display was odd and was cursing it until me teenage son pointed it out. Had no idea how I did it.

Snowflakes1122 Sun 16-Oct-16 07:59:05

The hair could have come off anyone. Perhaps another scary where his was hung up, in a shop with a woman walking past etc etc.

I also go on in private browsing by accident too!

You say your husband is very supportive, so I'd say you don't have anything to be concerned about. flowers

Snowflakes1122 Sun 16-Oct-16 07:59:22

Scarf not scary

TheNaze73 Sun 16-Oct-16 14:07:10

Fuss over nothing IMO

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