Really sorry, very long, if you make it to the end I'd appreciate thoughts!
DH been together 5 years, married for 3. Whirlwind romance, moving countries to be together, he is younger- only about 5 years but might be relevant. One 8 month baby.
Ever since we got married DH has a habit of going MIA, no contact, not reachable, nights out become 12 hour long events. At first it had me frantic with worry in case something had happened, but this soon wore down to anger and resentment at him acting this way.
Things improved when I was pregnant but it still happened and I came close to ending it then, but was too scared of being a single parent.
Unfortunately this is still happening even now and it makes me even more angry as obviously he does it knowing full well my evenings are spent with baby- EBF so still lots of night waking. And because he doesn't get home until mid morning sometimes I've had to cancel gym classes etc- I really value them as 'me' time and as DH works shifts I'm lucky to be able to do them..
The nights out I may be able to over look as 'just the way he is' but to add to matters he lies about them quite a lot- I'm pretty sure he isn't cheating, but he pretends he had to work late or has issues with transport home instead of admiting he has been out. Also money is tight due to me being on mat leave and we had over draft charges due to him spending over our budget- on taxis and alcohol. Again this is lied about and only admited when cornered.
So often we are arguing at home, he is guilty and sad, I am angry and sad.
Despite all this I love him and panic to think of my life without him - when things are good they are amazing and my heart melts when I see him caring for baby. But I don't see how we can continue. Is this worth ending a marriage over or should I stay and slog it out- and if the latter, how?
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Is this the end?
Yonosemanana · 15/10/2016 15:14
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