DH has been through a hard time at work, sidelined so decided to take voluntary redundancy. He has a colleague in HR who has been giving him advice. She is going through a rough time - divorcing an abusive man and selling family home etc.
Anyway I saw some of her messages to DH one night as our iPads & phones are linked. It was the day he decided to quit. She was telling him he was fabulous & suggesting they drown their sorrows over dinner one night. In itself I've no problem with that as I trust him and he often has drinks with female colleagues.
Actually she wanted to go dancing but he said dinner was fine. Then she started using the blowing kisses emoticon and insisted they set a date for dinner & said how much she'd miss him when he leaves. He was very noncommittal in return and went off to bed. I should've made a joke about it at the time but he had an interview for a new job the next day.
Anyway, since then she contacts him every few days. He is home on gardening leave and she was desperate for him to come into work to have lunch so she could "make sure he was OK". He said no, he needed a breather. Also he was in Bristol for an interview but didn't mention it to her so I don't think he's that fussed.
Another time she asked how he was, he said he was off exercising and she said she could think of better forms of stress relief to which he replied that he was getting that too. She seems to fish a lot about how being at home with his wife looking after him should help a lot to which he replies it does!
That night she sent a long text saying how she would miss him. He didn't reply.
Anyway its eating me up that she's probably going to throw herself at him when they go out but as he appears to be handling it should I keep shtum? Or should I ask him what she's like a few days before and mention I saw her blowing kisses and flirting?
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