Hi there,
I'm after some advice please regarding a situation I've recently found myself in. I've spoken to friends and family but feel I need the views of people not connected to what has been happening.
DP and I were together for 6yrs. We have one DD (3) and he has DC from previous relationship.
I moved into his house before DD was born, and thought we had a strong, healthy relationship. On the occasions we did argue, it was mainly around his DC (he recognised this but did nothing to improve things) We were engaged and had our wedding booked.
Basically the relationship between DP and my family broke down, too much to detail but he did nothing to try and resolve the problems, even though my family did.
He turned aggressive one night which resulted in me sustaining injuries and the police were called.
The day after he threw me out of his home with DD and the only contact we've had since has been via text and emails.
He's threatening me with court action and is looking for joint custody of DD.
I am absolutely devasted and feel like my world has ended.
On one hand I know he is an absolute b*stard for doing what he did (I've had no apology) but on the other hand I'm struggling to come to terms with the fact our relationship has broken down because of something which was out of my control and I still feel there is 'unfinished business' which we could possibly address.
Has anyone been in a situation similar to this? Can anyone share their experiences which might help me see this more clearly?
It's been a while now since I've moved out and he's made no effort to contact DD, although I know he sees his other DC regularly.
Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. I just feel so alone , and in a position I never thought i would be in.
I also have the prospect of cancelling our wedding as I know he'll leave it all for me to do...
How do you think I should proceed in these circumstances?
Thanks in advance.
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Dudette29 · 12/10/2016 16:34
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