I want to split with my husband. I have told a while back in a counselling session that I was done. We don't hate each other or argue but he is controlling with money (along the lines of the money he earns is his after he's paid our bills, I work part time freelance and earn a pittance but can't really work outside the home as childcare is odd hours here and he works away a lot) and I can no longer live in the way he wants to with no shared family finances.
However, life is complicated and so it can't really happen straight away. We currently live abroad and I want to come back with the dc in the summer after the dc finish their respective school years here. Dc1 has a birthday coming up this month, then we have visitorrs flying out to us next month and then it is Christmas.
I am building up to a conversation with H about how we handle things and what the fuck is going to happen next year. And I'm feeling a bit clueless about how to suggest things with the minimum of fallout. I want to do things amicably if we can.
So if we can't feasibly do it before Christmas (at least without devastating 2 kids) but likely aren't moving till July how do I do this? Tell them in the new year that we will be separating but spending 6 months still living in the same house until we can come home and then look at getting divorced once we are back? Or keep it all planned with H but not tell the kids till nearer the time?
WWYD?
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ErnieAndBernie · 11/10/2016 11:13
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