Please help me?!

[Mya123xx]

So I had a baby 4 months ago, my ex partner left me a month ago and I've been trying to get him back since. He says he's never interested in getting back together as I always took him for granted and we had constant arguements. I have depression and been getting help but still so heartbroken, I want him back so bad but he won't change his mind I don't know what to do?!!!!!!

[Sugarpiehoneyeye]

Oh dear, I am sorry.However, knowing that you have depression, he's really quite cruel, isn't he Mya ?
Try very hard to concentrate on your beautiful new baby.
It might also be an idea, to visit your GP, for a medication review, and to chat about how you are feeling.
The most important thing is, to confide in your family and friends.
Don't keep any of this to yourself, in your situation, you need all the love and help, available to you.
Try not to contact him, especially not to ask him back. If you can, let that ship sail.
You have a beautiful future to build, with your baby, you're going to be a very busy Mamma 💐💐

[SandyY2K]

Was it a good relationship? If you had constant arguments then I can see why he'd rather it's over?

You can't force him to change his mind, so leave him be and work on coparenting with him.

Continue getting the help you mentioned.

[SandyY2K]

knowing that you have depression, he's really quite cruel, isn't he Mya ?

Why is he cruel?

Because he couldn't handle it anymore?

[ThatGingerOne]

If he doesn't want to be with you then he doesn't want to be with you. You can't force him to come back or try to win him over.

Sounds like it was a bad relationship and he doesn't want back in.

[Mya123xx]

We only had arguements since the baby was born as my depression got worse and I wasnt happy. I love the boy to bits I would do anything for him we had some great time just don't wanna lose him x

[PatriciaHolm]

You need to concentrate on yourself and your lovely baby.

You can't single handedly resuscitate a relationship. I know it's hard but repeatedly throwing yourself at him is just going to make everything much harder.

[Mya123xx]

Yeah I'm on the highest dose of antidepressants have having counselling every week. It's just so crappy all I've ever wanted is a family that stays together :( x

[RunRabbitRunRabbit]

He's gone. Accept it and move on.

[Mya123xx]

You've obviously never been in love. It's not that simple but that's for your sympathetic response

[IminaPickle]

Your priority has to be your son. Big girl pants on. Any man who'd leave his partner and child so early on is an utter shit. He's really not worth it.

[PatriciaHolm]

There's no need to be snippy.

We've all been in love. I would guess that many of us are older than you, and have been there, been through it. Maybe more than once.

All you are doing is hurting yourself and taking time and attention away from your lovely baby.

[RunRabbitRunRabbit]

It is far far more important for a child to have a happy and stable home.

I had a family that was together and shouldn't have been. I still haven't forgiven my parents for staying together and subjecting us children to their dysfunction. It has taken me bloody years to sort my head out. One of my siblings is in an abusive relationship.

Well, last laugh's on them. The family stopped being together. Each child moved away as soon as possible and none of us are close to our selfish delusional parents who only care about what it looks like from the outside.

[TheNaze73]

He's gone. He's told you, it's in the past.

People are just being honest & telling you how they see it OP. You can't accuse people of never being in love, just because you disagree

[SandyY2K]

Maybe he thought he was the cause of your sadness and decided to leave.

[RolfsBabyGrand]

You have got a family darling - you and your baby. Sorry this has happened to you, I remember how desperate I felt during my PND. I'm pleased you are having regular counselling, and hope you have people in real life that can support you and be kind to you x