I know it's been done to death on here, but I just want to get some opinions.
We split when DC was a baby. He was a conrolling abusive bully (long story, won't bore you with the details, have talked about it on here before).To start with we shared care 50/50 . That changed when he did something awful (not illegal, just not acting in DC best interests - don't want to give details as it's identifying). Ended up going to court and I got residence of DC full time. I have supportive family but they live at a distance; some local friends but they are busy people too so limited support. Obviously this impacted on what I could do work wise, especially once DS started school so I had to go down to part time hours. I've tried to advance my career but it hasn't happened - that's down to me, not blaming anyone else but being part time hasn't helped. I don't think I'll ever have a high flying career now (in my early 40s) which makes me sad but that's how it is.
Anyway, since DC living with me full time, I have received a derisory amount of maintenance. XP is self employed (used to be highly paid, left his job so he didn't have to pay anything - tried enforcing maintenance through CSA, it didn't work, case closed several years ago). He is remarried, has a second family and very comfortably off. Several cars, expensive work being done on house. Meanwhile DC and I live from month to month. We are ok, we have a secure home which is more than many people do and have enough to eat. We manage (well, I manage) but it is hard and I'm not a saint, I do feel resentful sometimes.
Here's my question. Is it worth going to the CMEC and opening a new case? I've been advised they have more teeth than CSA but I had so much hassles and stress with the latter...not sure I can bear it again.
Anyway, very grateful for any (and all) advice. Thanks in advance :)
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That old chestnut....My XP and maintenance
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flippinada · 10/10/2016 20:27
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