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Stop me from begging.

(12 Posts)
IzzyIsBusy Sun 09-Oct-16 09:09:37

He moved out yesterday.
We have not been getting on for a while.
I know its the right thing to do but....

I want to beg him to be with me.
I want to plead for another chance.
It hurts so much and i dont want a life without him.

Stop me from begging. Stop me from sounding like a fool. Please tell me i wont be lonely and that eventually i will be happy.

Kr1stina Sun 09-Oct-16 09:10:46

So you know it's right that you split up ? Why?

AtSea1979 Sun 09-Oct-16 09:11:57

Don't beg, even if he comes back you'll always know it was for the wrong reasons. He's got to want to come back not out of sympathy.
It will get easier, try to keep yourself busy for the first couple of weeks, especially in the evenings.

IzzyIsBusy Sun 09-Oct-16 09:13:14

Because we have argued at least once a week for the last 3 months. Despite trying to work through the fall outs they kept happening.
Thats not the kind of relationship that either of us wanted.

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Sun 09-Oct-16 09:15:08

Write a list of all the things you can do now with him nagging /moaning /rolling his eyes.
Give your house a cheap revamp and make it a haven for you.

IzzyIsBusy Sun 09-Oct-16 09:20:33

Thank you for replying.

I would not have said i was the begging type but i honestly could throw myself at his feet right now!! blush

Rational side of stupid brain tells me i will be fine. Emotional side cant stop crying and wanting him back.

TrippyMcTrapFace Sun 09-Oct-16 10:41:13

Isn't this the guy who won't be around one of your DC?

IzzyIsBusy Sun 09-Oct-16 10:45:16

Yep.

See this is why i know its for the best.
I cant accept he wont get on with my son and he cannot accept my sons current behaviour.

Francescabear22 Sun 09-Oct-16 12:03:49

Hey lovely x picture your pet dog escaping out of your back gate and running madly up the road !! If you ran after it it would keep running turning looking to see if you were still there in hot pursuit. What you should do when said pooch runs out the back gate is shout once and leave the gate open for return. But with you in hot pursuit that pooch will keep running in the safe knowledge that nothing can go that wrong for it while you're behind it ... the moral is don't chase runaway dogs or men they'll just keep running xx

Squeegle Sun 09-Oct-16 12:09:04

Do what the PP said. Make a list of everything you hate about him. Write down the date in5 years. Write down how old you will be, write down how old your DCs will be. Write down how you want your life to be. Assuming your XP does not change - does he fit into your vision of how you want your life to be in 5 years?

Goingthroughdownpatch Sun 09-Oct-16 12:58:10

Hello,

I started a new topic called 'on behalf of a friend' on Friday. Wanting advice for a friend.
Even though he hasn't moved out she feels a bit like you.

Think the advice you've been given on here has been really good. This 'wanting him' period will pass.

Checking these relationship posts has helped me to help my friend. Such a shame there is so many people with similar situations.

Take care of you and your child(ren)

flowers

camichung Mon 10-Oct-16 01:16:40

Stop begging, seriously!
Let him go, you'll get further in having him running back if you just leave him to it for the time being as heartbreaking as it is, just breath and chill out, don't text him, try and focus on something. And look even if he doesn't come back hopefully the time you have had you'd have realised he ain't maybe all that an you shouldn't wait around for anybody. flowers

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