(Background: abusive upbringing; no decent relationship models; no idea what I'm doing most of the time! And DH similar)
This is a common problem for me and I am keen to know what others do in this situation. How do you handle it when you and DH/DP have a small disagreement? I mean, when your relationship is basically good and loving but he objects to a minor thing you did or said, or vice versa? I feel like DH and I are creating bigger issues for ourselves by not handling these little things well.
If one of you is slightly annoyed with the other, is the atmosphere then frosty and cold between you? And how do you get it back on track? If he is cross with me for something I start to feel unsafe and as though I need to withdraw. He snaps and seems cold. So I withdraw and avoid intimacy. Then the atmosphere is awkward and I don't know how to salvage the situation, so it escalates.
What I need to discover is how to maintain relations which imply basically "I love you and things are good between us, but I am (or you are) annoyed about this one tiny thing". Any suggestions please??
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How do you handle small issues with DH/DP?
EcclefechanTart · 07/10/2016 14:12
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