DH and I are forever disagreeing on what I have said or haven't said. He misremembered so many things and then gets angry when I refuse to accept I've said the given thing. Ridiculously, we just had a fight about whether I said that a certain theatre where we are going tonight is by Westminster or Embankment. He insists I said it was by Westminster, when I know that theatre very well and know for certain that when we spoke about it two days ago, I said it was by Embankment, and he said "yeah, around Westminster," and I didn't say 'no, it's by Embankment" I just said "yeah round there, by Embankment" because in my head those two are quite close anyway. So in his head only Westminster stuck, and he now goes mad at me and says "that's the problem with you that you'll never admit when you said something wrong." It may sound silly but it's a reacurring issue for us and it creates so many big arguments. He forgets the details of the conversation and only remember the gist (or what he wants to remember) and then gets angry when I remind him of something else. In the case of the theatre of course it doesn't really matter, it's only because it's an example (and has ruined my desire to even have a night out with him) but when it comes to him for example insisting that I agreed to DD's name before she was born, and we're now trying to agree on our new, unborn child's name, it's a big problem. Because I did not agree to DD's name before birth, we had a short list and I said I wanted to see what she was like looked before deciding which name suited her. When she was born and the midwife asked "do you have a name" he then just said the name he preferred from the list all the time! I was so out of it that I just agreed, I don't regret it because I love her name and it suits her, but I'm upset about the decision process and don't want that to happen again. But he straight out claims I agreed to the name beforehand which I know I did not. I even asked my mum and sister, who'd know if we had a name for certain and they said no, you liked that name and a few others and you had not decided. There are many things like that and I just feel I'm banging my head against a brick wall, because he quite clearly is convinced that he remembers things correctly and is outraged that I am "lying" about what I've said in the past.
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Going nuts over DH accusing me of having said things I haven't
Londonmamabychance · 06/10/2016 09:19
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