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Accepting gift for son

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Anuta77 · 05/10/2016 15:47

Hello,
My husband's ex wife doesn't like me. I didn't do anything to her, I guess she's simply jealous. No open war between us, simply a cold relationship which doesn't go beyond a hello without a smile. I only see her (rarely) when we go pick up my husband's daughter. What I find strange is that she makes efforts to be nice to my son from a previous relationship. She rarely sees him and he never talks to her, so there's no relationship between them.

For example, we were once picking up her daughter from her friend's birthday party and she started asking my husband (in their language), if my son wanted a drink (I was standing right there and could have given it to him myself, which I did before she came). And even when I told her NO, she proceeded to asking my 8 year old son directly.

Now, she's telling my husband that she has a halloween costume and offers it to my son out of all people she knows.

Of course, my husband considers these actions nice, but I can't help but feeling that she's using my son to look nice in front of him, because she really has no reason to be connected to my son in any way and I'm uncomfortable with it.
Would you accept this gift?

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LemonSqueezy0 · 05/10/2016 15:58

Maybe you are inadvertently giving off a vibe that you don't want to be friendly and now is a great opportunity to improve the relationship between the pair of you... Perhaps she sees you being kind to her child, and is extending you the same courtesy via your son. Hopefully she is being genuine and you can both have a warmer relationship.

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puddlejumpingqueen · 05/10/2016 15:59

Lol at the only explanation is her being jealous .

Perhaps your husband's daughter asked to get a Halloween costume for her stepbrother when she was getting one? Maybe it's the ex wife's way of trying to be friendly.

I really don't think she has done anything wrong here.

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Joysmum · 05/10/2016 16:03

Why are you letting her get to you this much? There are people in life I don't particularly like or simply don't click with, their behaviour doesn't particularly feature on my radar.