My husband used to work the same job as me, it's inherently stressful and his performance began to suffer. Feeling he was going to have to walk or be pushed, he secured another job and resigned. I was so relieved that the stress was over but three weeks in and husband was crying this morning because he was so worked up about going in.
He says it's very busy and very stressful. It sounds to me like he hasn't had much positive feedback and is made to feel that any mistake he makes will be the end of the world and result in him being told he isn't passing his probation.
His upbringing makes him quite needy for positive feedback-his father continually told him he'd never amount to anything and would be lucky to be a binman. Neither parent showed much affection and as a result he has a strong need to be liked by everyone. I'm trying to be supportive but this kind of stressing bring about the following in me:
Huge anxiety about what people will think of he loses his job, worrying that he won't be able to cope with any job, annoyance that he can't cope and a feeling he should just just bloody well get on with it, anxiety that he might need treatment for anxiety! I feel like having to say to people that he couldn't last a month in a bloody office job is the equivalent to saying "my husband is a total loser!". I'm worried that he's looking for an elusive job that requires no hard work or stress!!
I realise I don't come out of the above too well lol! I just wondered how you would feel in my situation?
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Teaface1981 · 05/10/2016 07:59
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