Not sure where to put this thread - it's about wanting to get out of a friendship.
I've grown close to a friend I met when our little ones were newborns. I love the fact we can have in-depth chats. However, I've found her behaviour has become quite toxic. Recently I've not looked forward to meeting up with her. She often treats me with disrespect - controlling plans, changing plans, leaving me out and ignoring how this all makes me feel. We had a disagreement over something small and I realised that she is the sort of person who gets very defensive if she thinks you are criticising her. I feel I can't tell her about the things she does that upset me, as she will get defensive (never accepts anything she's done could cause offence/inconvenience others and gets a bit nasty about it).
In short, I've decided I need to get out of the friendship. I started backing out of it by just being less available and telling her I'm busy, however, this seemed to annoy her and worsen her behaviour.
So....I decided to make up the lie that I've just started a new job in accountancy part-time, flexible hours. I said I'm putting my DD is nursery. I thought I could then use the excuse that I'm unavailable due to work. I'm confident I can carry this off as she does not mix with any of my other friends and I plan to see her less and less anyway.
Is that awful??? Complete lie - I do not have a job.
In the past, I told a different close friend about things that she had done that had upset me and it did not go well - we had a big argument about it as she refused to accept that she was in the wrong. We completely fell out and I was left with a horrible feeling, remembering the fall-out. Therefore, I'd just like to slink out of this friendship, with minimal confrontation and perhaps just remain distant aquaintances 'due to work'.
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Lied to end friendship
WittyCakeMeister · 05/10/2016 00:40
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