I posted a few months ago about my ex now living alone . Well he was found dead. Sudden massive heart attack. The families all got together. His kids all bonded in their grief despite the dad not wanting any of them to know or ever meet each other while he was alive.
My son was devastated by his dads death even tho he was never supported emotionally or financially by him but he was the only dad he had .
Two months later my sons best friend hung himself . Again son devastated .
Now only a few weeks later his girlfriend has broken up with him.
I cant believe it. Everyone is shocked Ok I don't believe you should stay out of pity but this was so sudden . She was hinting about marriage a few weeks before all this. They had been dating for over a year and seemed very close.
She has just got a new job in a male dominated profession so suspect she has found someone else at work.
My son is very depressed . He has seen his GP who has prescribed anti depressants and son is on a waiting list for counselling .
What can I do as a mum ?
He wont talk to me just says to leave it and he will be ok .The next thing he is crying but pushes me away.
Ive offered to have him stay with us for a while . He will stay the odd night but just sits in silence on his phone .
I have taken him out for drives , for meals , shopping...anything to occupy him for a little while and do something different.
Ive spoken to his half sisters and friends to keep an eye on him as I'm afraid he will go down the path of his friend .
I have called MIND who were no help at all to be honest . They said as he is an adult and refuses help there is nothing they can do .
Where do I turn ? How can I help my son without pressuring him ?
I am glad he has met his brothers and sisters but angry at the mess his dad left . I do not voice this to my son btw .
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Dinkiedoo · 04/10/2016 17:51
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