My friend is younger than me and is just beginning to notice her own aged friends begin to settle down and get married. They are all late 20s/early 30s.She's really nice, friendly and outgoing and I would say, gets on better with men than women and works in a male dominated environment.
Im just setting the scene, not sure if it's relevant or not. She's not very confident and has made a few questionable life choices. She has low standards in her career and is coasting along without major ambition. She seems to be lacking in self esteem. She'd say, for example, "I'm not as good as you at....." whatever it may be.
She's always gone for much older men who seem to have baggage or have made bad decisions in there own lives.
I was pleased when she broke up with the last one and hoped a nicer man was in the future.
But it appears she's got involved with a married man. She's very secretive about it but it's been going on now for a long time, over a year, I think and she has said he is separated, but from some digging on FB, the wife doesn't seem to think they are.
Im not fully sure what my friend is telling me versus what he is telling her, but it's messy and I would love her to escape his obviously very charming clutches.
He's leading her to believe they have a future yet not appearing to be open about it. So having his cake and eating it, with lots of sneaking around and making my friend secretive, defensive and eating away at her confidence even more.
I'd like to help her see the light somehow. I know there's an MN script that cheaters follow. Is there a condensed version I can send her so she might read it and identify him and realise what his plan is. He probably has no intention of leaving his wife. And if he does, she won't be the last affair.
I hate that she is ruining her life with this waster and these should be the best years of her life.
She is stunning and doesn't realise it. She could have her pick of men her age who are available and she's also very engaging and great company. As her friend, is there anything I can do?
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How to help my friend, who's the long-term OW, see the light
Amateurlifecoach · 04/10/2016 13:33
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