Desperately need some advice. I've been with DP for 10 years and we have a DD aged 3 together. We have never married because he has never wanted to and we live in what is technically his house. I haven't worked fulltime since DD was born as we have no family in the area so childcare would have been too much money. Instead I have worked part time evening work in a bar- so low pay. He has covered mortgage payments bills food shop etc and my wages cover the car costs, some food and activities etc for DD. We have separate bank accounts but if I ever need anything extra I ask for money. I've never felt that comfortable with this so in general try not to ask for money. Anyway, our relationship hasn't been perfect over the years but we have been generally happy. But since DD things have been quite up and down, due to moving/ job stresses/ family bereavement and every time there is an argument however small, it seems to blow into something bigger. He is forever pointing out my faults and all that is wrong with me, and this along with the rows is wearing me down to a point tht I'm just unhappy. A row started at the weekend, over something small and the whole thing has escalated. He has told me that he is questioning whether we should be together and doesn't think it's working. I will be honest, I agree, but realise practically I am in a much more vulnerable position. I feel lost. I don't know where I will go or where I will get money from. I am terrified he would get custody of DD because he would be seen as having a more stable living environment. Maybe it would even be better for her to stay with him? I'm crying as I type this. I can't believe this has all got so messed up. Help.
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