He's never been hugely sympathetic to me if I'm not well but in recent years he's got worse and is actively nasty and unhelpful if I'm not well or am in need of any care or support of any kind.
When I had our youngest child, who is now 5, I was quite ill during the pregnancy and was signed off work and unable to do much. For the whole pregnancy DH was an arse to me and just refused to do anything, so I spent my whole pregnancy living in a tip, trying to wade through treacle every day to do basic things for the kids, with him in a total mood and being outright mean to me most of the time. I then had a severe PPH at the birth and again was unwell for a few weeks afterwards but I got home from hospital to a total tip, and DH refused to do anything to help, not even bring me a glass of water whilst I was breatfeeding.
As I gradually recovered he got nicer to me and gradually went back to normal.
Then a couple of years ago I had a chest infection. Again he refused to do anything at all to help and was awful to me.
Which brings us to now! I have recently had a stressful time with work and family stuff and have been having migraines. Usually I try to recover as quickly as I can and carry on. However I had one about 5 days ago which has, quite honestly, floored me. I have a horrible migraine hangover which has left me very very exhausted and weak, and I am struggling.
DH is, as usual, being a complete arse about it all and won't even engage in any conversations about me feeling unwell. He has stopped doing anything around the house, leaving it all up to me, and is moody and uncommunicative. Last night he was really nasty towards me; snappy and rude for no reason at all, and refused to do anything to help get our youngest to bed or get things ready for today.
I just feel like ending the marriage because of it, but he can't see a problem with his behaviour and thinks that it's acceptable and that I'm in the wrong.
I try to be ill as little as possible, but am I really expecting too much to expect a bit of love and care if I'm unwell?
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DH is awful to me when I'm not well
LittleMrsPollyPocket · 04/10/2016 09:23
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