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Disturbed by news that abusive ex and ex stepfather are now friends?

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talllikejerryhall Mon 03-Oct-16 12:19:27

Last night, my son came back from weekend at his dad's, telling me that something we all assumed my abusive ex stepfather did years ago was incorrect - I asked how he knew this and he said his dad spoke to him.

I was taken aback, as they met once over Christmas around twelve years ago, and didn't seem to have much in common except a deep misogynistic vein. Ex was contemptuous and demeaning of me, while ex SF was horrible and controlling wit both me and my mother - it was a great Christmas, as you can imagine.

Anyway, I dumped him over a decade ago, and my mum did same with her ex, but now I find out they've stayed in contact all these years, and my son told me his dad told him how well he was doing, etc.

This is so disturbing and upsetting, given this is a man who physically attacked me when I was heavily pregnant with my son, calling me a fucking bitch and screaming at me.

Now they're chatting like a couple mates, sharing my son's progress?

I am just so shocked and disgusted by this turn of events - I thought ex SF had been out of my life for over a decade and now I find out he's still in a way, involved. I sent furious text about this to my son's father, and he has predictably not seen anything wrong at all with the situation.

I feel disturbed and betrayed - is there anything I can do?

ImperialBlether Mon 03-Oct-16 12:20:50

Ugh, they sound like a couple of cell mates who've suddenly found they have a lot in common.

Who was it that screamed at you?

Ninasimoneinthemorning Mon 03-Oct-16 12:21:53

No. There isn't - but it fucking stinks. They clearly have a lot in common.

If you feel your ears burning you know where it's coming from

talllikejerryhall Mon 03-Oct-16 12:30:15

The ex BF used to undermine me and say horrible things about me behind me back, all while playing the nice guy. He took me to court (and lost) over custody of our son, rather than work things out between ourselves.

The ex SF was the one who attacked me on New Years Eve, around twelve years ago, when I was heavily pregnant. We didn't speak for years after that and finally my mother dumped him.

Just can't believe they are in contact and that he would be updating this abusive prick about my son's welfare and progress? I was on the phone to him crying the night he attacked me and now they are friends?

I am sickened

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