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I feel so lonely!

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ProfessorPickles Sun 02-Oct-16 22:33:21

I don't know what else to say, I just feel so alone lately.

Anyone feeling the same?

Any sort of distraction would be wonderful, tell me about one of your favourite memories or something nice that happened today!

Myusernameismyusername Sun 02-Oct-16 22:34:54

I have a really annoying cat that can keep you company? Takes up all the bed and licks her bits near your face? Honestly am happy to lend out on a permanent basis grin

ProfessorPickles Sun 02-Oct-16 22:37:14

An annoying cat sounds wonderful, just think of all the time that would be taken up in disgust at her licking her bits etc. I'm allergic to cats also so that'd give me something to think about at least grin

Thanks myusername!

Myusernameismyusername Sun 02-Oct-16 22:40:54

Damn your allergy I really thought I had found you a new special friend then.
She's licking them nearer to the end of the bed right now but she will soon creep slowly up.
And whenever I try to shut her out she spends all night wailing and scratching the door.
She also sits in the sinks and climbs up to the top of doors and jumps on you

Just be sure now you don't want to give her a go

Inarightpickleandchutney Sun 02-Oct-16 22:44:59

I'll take the cat!! My feet are cold, is she any good at sitting on feet?!

ProfessorPickles Sun 02-Oct-16 22:49:05

Inarightpickle (ooh a fellow Pickle!), my only worry is that she'd sit on my cold feet and continue with the bits licking!

I wish I wasn't allergic to cats, I'd love a pet but don't have the time or money for a dog. We had a lovely hamster but she died, I used to love it when I'd put DS to bed then come downstairs and get her out

Inarightpickleandchutney Sun 02-Oct-16 22:50:51

I had the most amazing cat until Christmas last year when he went to cat heaven.
My feet are cold now!
Debating buying a mermaid blanket ha ha

ProfessorPickles Sun 02-Oct-16 22:51:51

I love those mermaid blankets, I could lay here looking so elegant and mermaidy

ProfessorPickles Sun 02-Oct-16 22:52:20

Sorry to hear about your cat pickle, hopefully your cat isn't chasing my hamster around up there!

Inarightpickleandchutney Sun 02-Oct-16 22:53:08

Yep. I'd have to put wire in the end bit though so it was fully sticky outy!

Inarightpickleandchutney Sun 02-Oct-16 22:55:06

Cat was an old boy, he'd had a great life. Very sad but glad we had him for so long, big old queen that he was!

Inarightpickleandchutney Sun 02-Oct-16 23:13:36

Hope you've managed to distract yourself for. Little bit, got to go to bed but wil check in during my inevitable wake up at 3am.. No idea why but it keeps happening!

ProfessorPickles Sun 02-Oct-16 23:17:56

Thank you pickle, I have managed to be distracted partly thanks to this short thread which I appreciate smile

I hope your 3am wakings stop soon!!

Inarightpickleandchutney Sun 02-Oct-16 23:21:36

Oh it's a pain in the ass! No reason just happens

GinBunny Sun 02-Oct-16 23:31:44

Hello Prof are you still around? I'm feeling a bit lonely too. No cats, but 2 dogs to distract me.
Do you want to talk about why you are feeling lonely or just a distraction?

1DAD2KIDS Sun 02-Oct-16 23:39:24

Me too sometimes. I have two kids living with me and a cat. I do have some very good friends but very little opportunity to she them due to full time work, kids, housework and they all have busy life's too. I still get lonely sometimes and I must admit one day I would love to have someone to be with again, but not possible at the moment, no free time and not sure if I am ready to trust a woman again (I know its silly but my unquestioning trust was shattered so it feels like it could happen again). I don't think many on hear are a stranger to loneliness at some point in their life.

Cats can be good company but also a pain in the arse. My cat woke me up a 1am the other night. I woke up to the sound of crashing about and squealing in my bathroom. When I when to take a look he had caught a bloody huge live rat. I try to get the rat that resulted in an epic tug of war between me and the cat. The cat had the rat by the scruff of its neck and I got a firm grip of the rats tail and was pulling. It was a farce. I was shouting at the cat, the cat growling like a dog at me and stuck in the middle was the poor rat being pulled in both directions squealing like a pig in war. Eventually I gave the cat a clip round the ear and he let go. I remember carrying the rat down the stairs by its tail. It may be the safest way to carry a live rat (I assume) but it isn't the prettiest. All I could see was the rats tiny anus starring up at me. Its an image that can be washed out how ever hard I try. But I just wanted to get the rat out my house and back to bed. So without must thought I when out the front of the house to chuck the rat. The thing is I like to sleep au natural. On reflection it is a good thing non of my neighbours are up at 1am because a stark bollock naked man carrying a rat may have looked somewhat perverse out of context. Scary to think my cat could have got me put on some sort of register. Anyway I chucked the rat out on to the street and it ran off of on its merry way. When I got back into the house the cat did not looked best pleased I took his toy away. He only started speaking to me again last night.

Czerny88 Sun 02-Oct-16 23:55:53

I now have a very amusing mental image of a naked man attempting to wrest a half-crazed rodent from a disgruntled cat.

Shayelle Mon 03-Oct-16 07:42:33

Get another hampster op!! X

ProfessorPickles Mon 03-Oct-16 09:05:23

1DAD2KIDS I just let out a massive snort with laughter at your post, I hope one of your neighbours did see you grin lobbing a rat out of your back door wearing nothing but a grimace. Incredible!
The worst part is I've got my earphones in so have no idea how loudly I laughed!

ProfessorPickles Mon 03-Oct-16 13:38:57

Hey GinBunny, I started a message to you this morning but ran out of time to send it!

I feel lonely for a couple of reasons I suppose, I'm in the same position as many others in that I'm a single parent. I feel I barely have enough time to get done what I need to never mind a social life on top of that! I'm a full time student in my final year, but the thing is I've moved Uni's so I feel a bit like I've been thrown in at the deep end without the friends I'd made in the first two years. I'm really hoping this feeling improves over the next few weeks or so as I settle in.

Another reason I feel lonely is that I've met someone, he's lovely and treats me well but we rarely get time to see each other. It will have been three weeks by the time I see him at the end of this week, it's usually 1-2 weeks between. It is his absence that makes me feel lonely, before I met him I'd been single for 18 months and felt fine.
Relationships seem to strip away my confidence, I always get an urge to call it off and run but I know that I'll feel this way every time I meet someone anyway so I might as well stay and hope it improves! I don't think it's because of him, just because of precious bad relationships full of lying and cheating unfortunately. It's hard to trust anyone again as 1DAD says.

I just feel quite lost and uncertain about everything lately.

Where does your loneliness stem from Gin?

GinBunny Mon 03-Oct-16 21:49:52

Hey Prof, it sounds like you are in a good place though, and on the up if you're in your final year and in a new relationship. It's a stressful time being in your final year so no wonder you feel uncertain especially if you have just changed unis and don't have your support group around you.
Am around to chat this evening if you want thanks

ProfessorPickles Tue 04-Oct-16 13:13:53

Thanks Gin, I've had a far better day today than yesterday. Yesterday was awful and I felt so insecure, today I'm brimming with confidence and did really well in a presentation at uni.

On the downside, I'm not officially in a relationship with him. I don't think it's likely to head that way either as things are, he was going to meet me today for dinner but cancelled to go food shopping with his sister. I wouldn't mind if it hadn't been almost three weeks since we'd seen each other, I don't understand. He makes the effort to see me and treats me extremely well, I'm most definitely not being used. But equally surely he'd be itching to see me!

Me and relationships don't go unfortunately, I'm such a loving person but just can't find anyone worth having, or who stays long term. Woe is me and all that!

How're you today Gin? Would you like to talk about why you feel lonely too, if you wouldn't like to I understand! But I'm here to listen smile

ProfessorPickles Tue 04-Oct-16 13:13:59

Thanks Gin, I've had a far better day today than yesterday. Yesterday was awful and I felt so insecure, today I'm brimming with confidence and did really well in a presentation at uni.

On the downside, I'm not officially in a relationship with him. I don't think it's likely to head that way either as things are, he was going to meet me today for dinner but cancelled to go food shopping with his sister. I wouldn't mind if it hadn't been almost three weeks since we'd seen each other, I don't understand. He makes the effort to see me and treats me extremely well, I'm most definitely not being used. But equally surely he'd be itching to see me!

Me and relationships don't go unfortunately, I'm such a loving person but just can't find anyone worth having, or who stays long term. Woe is me and all that!

How're you today Gin? Would you like to talk about why you feel lonely too, if you wouldn't like to I understand! But I'm here to listen smile

ProfessorPickles Tue 04-Oct-16 13:14:06

Thanks Gin, I've had a far better day today than yesterday. Yesterday was awful and I felt so insecure, today I'm brimming with confidence and did really well in a presentation at uni.

On the downside, I'm not officially in a relationship with him. I don't think it's likely to head that way either as things are, he was going to meet me today for dinner but cancelled to go food shopping with his sister. I wouldn't mind if it hadn't been almost three weeks since we'd seen each other, I don't understand. He makes the effort to see me and treats me extremely well, I'm most definitely not being used. But equally surely he'd be itching to see me!

Me and relationships don't go unfortunately, I'm such a loving person but just can't find anyone worth having, or who stays long term. Woe is me and all that!

How're you today Gin? Would you like to talk about why you feel lonely too, if you wouldn't like to I understand! But I'm here to listen smile

TheSilveryPussycat Wed 05-Oct-16 11:33:02

Hi Prof! Glad you're feeling better, it can be quite hard meshing lifestyles with other people. I'm at a point where I need to re-evaluate my priorities. Am in a relationship with Lovely Man, we see each other a couple of times a week and have just been on holiday, but have noticed my own goals have been sidelined slightly (by me) and am trying to rebalance my life a bit.

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