Met a new man about a month ago. I really like him which is rare for me ( standards super high after lots of crap relationships ) But I don't feel like he listens to me.
He has a fantastic and interesting life and is always telling amazing stories about things he's done. While I am pretty boring in comparison, in the way that I've not done half the things he has. I am intelligent and funny, I think!
So usually our conversations end up the same way with him talking a lot at me and me clamming up I guess because I don't like being talked at, I think I find it intimidating. When I do say something it seems he can't wait to interrupt and say his own thing.
I am a quiet person but usually with people I feel comfortable with I have lots to say. He is one of those people who find it easy to go on about himself while I am not. I need to feel like the other person is interested in what I'm saying by showing me they're listening by asking questions etc.
But could it be that he expects me to be more forthcoming like him and doesn't like to pry hence the lack of curiosity??
I have talked to him about this and he knows he prattles on and is happy to be told to shut up but I am unsure because I don't want to get serious with someone who has no interest in me.
Do you think this is because I have lower self esteem than him and need to be more assertive? Or is it a mismatch that won't improve with time?
Also I'd be interested to hear from people who are naturally chatty, what do you think of us quieter types?
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New man doesn't listen, is it my fault??
Matthewsfab · 02/10/2016 20:17
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