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Arguments

(6 Posts)
doodlebug83 Fri 30-Sep-16 12:39:23

My partner and I argue a lot, usually due to two things – 1) I do things without thinking that could affect our family and 2) when faced with an argument, I usually end up crying, screaming or become mute.
Obviously, I don’t want to be like this. I find it hard to take others into account when making decisions, and usually don’t talk about them as I know the response is going to be negative. I don’t know why I do it, but I continue to do so even though I know it is going to end up in an argument. I need help with thinking things through better and openly discussing them.
I hate arguing with my partner, and feel backed into a corner when we do and I lash out. I hate that I can’t respond and can’t think of things to say, which often ends up with him getting frustrated with me.
I wish I knew why I did all of these things, and I need to find a way to change my pattern of thinking.

Offred Fri 30-Sep-16 13:09:37

Have you been to the GP?

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom Fri 30-Sep-16 13:16:23

Can you give us an example of the decisions?

Have you considered speaking to a therapist?

Humblebee1 Fri 30-Sep-16 13:16:43

Were you always like this?

RunRabbitRunRabbit Fri 30-Sep-16 13:31:59

His response is always negative?

You say you can't respond and think of things to say?

Can you give us an example of how a conversation went?

TheNaze73 Fri 30-Sep-16 15:25:52

Have you visited your Dr??

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