Been watching posts for weeks now and have courage tonight to post. But no idea where to start. I was a bright young person with good prospects and I have focussed all my energy on one person past 10 years who turns out is controlling abusive mentally and physically but I kept excusing and accepting it thinking one day it would magically change. My stbxp doesn't acknoledge anything I have dealt with is a complete hypocrite and cannot see things from a realistic point of view. Our Dd almost died last use age 2 from something awful that I suspected was wrong with her for 6 months and he used to call me idiot stupid with no parental experience as he has previous dc. How do I get to the mental frame of mind to end it and put dd (only 2) first and stop worrying about him having no place to stay, no fixed income, no family that will support him???? I know Dd comes first and the whole story of my life 10 years since i met him looking back is horrific but I still carry guilt for ending it now. So much more I could say but I don't even know where to start to feel ok with leaving him (in context he's such a bully he thinks he's left me but isn't really wanting to leave ) so he basically puts our happiness and life on hold until I achieve impossible requests. Anyone got any advice how to start to move on and not feel responsible for someone who hurts me every day and now says my cold ways have ended us ..
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