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Supposed to be getting married in 10 days

(184 Posts)
PixieMiss Wed 28-Sep-16 11:52:52

I thought after a number of shite years I had found some happiness but no, of course not.

He just punched me while our 6 month old was watching in his Baby Bjorn. I can't stop crying sad

Don't know why I'm posting. I just don't want to be alone.

NapQueen Wed 28-Sep-16 11:54:29

Oh god I'm so sorry.

We are all here to keep you company.

Do you want to talk about it?

dontpokethebear Wed 28-Sep-16 11:54:31

Time to cut loose. No matter how 'sorry' he might claim to be, he'll probably do it again.
Is there anywhere you can go?

slightlypeevedwombat Wed 28-Sep-16 11:54:43

ok - well the first thing you need to do is get yourself to safety

is he still there?

slightlypeevedwombat Wed 28-Sep-16 11:55:05

DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! whatever you do - he punched you!

guineapig1 Wed 28-Sep-16 11:55:44

Please make sure you and your little one are safe. Just make any excuse to get you both out of the house. If he goes out lock yourselves in. Please contact the police as soon as you are able to. They will be able to help. Do you have any friends or family nearby you can contact?

Don't marry him - he won't change.

PixieMiss Wed 28-Sep-16 11:56:46

He took our son to the post office, he will be about half an hour.

I don't have anywhere ideal to go but can make it work. What about my son? He won't me take him.

DoItTooJulia Wed 28-Sep-16 11:57:36

What RL support do you have? Phone a friend/relative and tell them everything.

Can you leave right now?

DoItTooJulia Wed 28-Sep-16 11:58:54

While he is gone pack essentials into a bag and phone someone. Just take your son and leave as soon as he's back. Go to a police station or a public place until someone can get to you.

abbsismyhero Wed 28-Sep-16 12:00:33

Call the police

PixieMiss Wed 28-Sep-16 12:01:15

You are all so right but I'm scared.

It was supposed to be a lovely family home but now what? Its all my fault.

Yesterday my beautiful baby boy rolled off the bed and bumped his head. We both cried. It looks a bit bruised today. He said people will see it and think I am an unfit mother and hes right. I turned my back on him for a second sad

myfriendnigel Wed 28-Sep-16 12:02:08

At the earliest opportunity remove yourself and your son to somewhere safe. Do this without telling him you are doing it, that's important.
Then report what has happened to the Police.As soon as you can.
If you have someone that can help you then ring them and explain and ask them to come and be with you.But if not, and I know this will be hard, then you will have to be brave and just go.
You don't have to make any long term choices now.But you do need to make yourself and your child safe for now.

DoItTooJulia Wed 28-Sep-16 12:02:51

Are you staying then? Because that's a really bad idea.

Do you have any RL support?

myfriendnigel Wed 28-Sep-16 12:04:28

It's not your fault.whatever you may or may not have done (or what he says you've done) there isn't ever any justification for violence.
No one will think you are an unfit mother because your child rolled off the bed once.

Florene Wed 28-Sep-16 12:04:32

Ring the police now whilst he is out. Tell them he hit you when the baby was there. Tell them when he will be back.

When they come to arrest him you can then leave with your son. And you will have more time to do so.

dontpokethebear Wed 28-Sep-16 12:07:05

He has punched you in front of your ds. If it continues as ds grows up, it will become a normal part of his life and he won't think anything of telling friends and family that daddy hits mummy (which is what happened with my dsis). Or he will live in fear. Harsh but true. You owe it to your son for him to be brought up in a loving and SAFE home.

Each of my dc have rolled off the bed, it's almost a right of passage.

CodyKing Wed 28-Sep-16 12:07:59

DS also fell off the bed - it happens they bounce quite well

You need to leave

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve Wed 28-Sep-16 12:09:26

You are not to blame! Accidents happen, you do not punch someone for making a mistake. Please talk to someone in rl flowers

GeekLove Wed 28-Sep-16 12:13:01

You have 10 days not to get married. He will not get better.
And it is never your fault for someone else's actions. You did not make him do it.
THis is who he is.

Wolfiefan Wed 28-Sep-16 12:14:36

He won't let you take your child? Call the police. He needs to leave.

PotteringAlong Wed 28-Sep-16 12:16:05

All of my children have fallen off the bed. I'd hazard a guess that 95% of all children have fallen off the bed. The vast majority of people do not punch their fiancées.

Look at the positive - better today than in 14 days time when you were married to the bastard.

Pack a bag, call the police,

Mintychoc1 Wed 28-Sep-16 12:16:56

loads of babies roll off beds, it happens all the time. Trust me there isn't a social worker on the planet who would consider that an indicator of poor parenting. However, exposing a child to domestic violence is a reason for social services involvement, so your partner is the one who is an unfit parent, not you.

Starfish28 Wed 28-Sep-16 12:22:37

Both my children have rolled off the bed it happens. Please don't stay with an abusive man. Call the police now and explain or a friend. Get out ASAP. It is never, ever your fault

bumblingmum Wed 28-Sep-16 12:24:15

all babies roll off some kind of furniture. Both of mine did it. I am not a terrible mother and neither are you. He is a terrible person and under no circumstances is it ok to punch another person.
Get somewhere safe with your baby, even if you cant leave with possessions, someone can hopefully collect those for you later.

Mishaps Wed 28-Sep-16 12:25:36

Just go - no ifs, no buts, just leave with your son when he is out of the house.

He's playing with your mind - you are not a bad mother - all mine fell of the bed and other things, and yes, they bounced.

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