I am exhausted, I have done everything I can to have a good relationship with my MIL but I feel constantly belittled and fed up of treading on eggshells. I have been with DH over a decade but my MIL has constantly judged me and nothing I can do is good enough.
We have done all we can to support her but she is in a massive amount of debt. She never makes any effort with us unless she wants money. We try to help but we have own own financial commitments. DH was unemployed for nearly three months and I was the only wage earner. We are just starting to get even but she has taken no interest in our struggles, just constantly wanting more and more money.
Unfortunately she also has a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and making every problem about her. I try my hardest to recognise that everybody has struggles and problems but she shows little regard for how her son (my DH) feels. If she hurts someone and they get angry or upset, she claims that they are treating her unfairly. She never takes responsibility for her actions.
She invited herself to visit recently and she knew that I had a long arranged work engagement which I couldn't alter. She kicked up such a fuss that I felt uncomfortable in my own home. The next day she burst in to tears and stormed out. I was I credibly hurt that she accused me of making her uncomfortable on purpose.
I have also recently found out that she used to beat her sons when they were young. I wonder if this has clouded my view of her and I want to push her away because I cannot imagine using a kitchen implement to hurt any children we may have. What worries me the most is that when I try and talk to DH about it he laughs, he doesn't seem to realise how wrong it is.
It all feels like such a bloody cliche. I wanted a relationship with my MIL but it's so hard and upsetting. I wish she appreciated how fantastic her son is rather than make him feel unloved
I'm not sure what I am looking for from this post, mainly a chance to rant, but any advice would be lovely. Please don't be too harsh, I feel bad enough already
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The dreaded MIL cliche
RustyPaperclip · 27/09/2016 21:22
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