Like most relationships when I met my now fiancé it felt great, we could talk forever, have fun together, never argue or have any issues, great sex I truly felt I met my sole mate , it was immiediate attraction we just both knew there was something there. 4 years later and living together for 1 year, things don't feel the same, but u know we've had a lot of things thrown at us more than most couples and seems things are finally taking it's toll.
We lived in seperated towns 30mins apart so in order for us to be together one of us had to move and change the children's schools etc. that was me but for good reasons , the schools are much better here, it's a better area etc etc. I had a lot of problems settling my dd in secondary school she was bullied and had no friends but with my help and working with the school that's thankfully turned around now. His dd who is 12 and my dd 13 had issues prob due to their age and having to live together, me and dp were put under a lot of strain because we would both side with our own dds. We seemed to get through it but it was hard. Then his ex caused a lot of trouble so much so she nearly split us up and it ended up in court which we won but things haven't really been the same since even though everything has settled down. We constantly bicker, I don't feel he finds me attractive anymore, he criticises me, he's quite often snappy with my dcs I have 2 and he has 2 , yet I feel he's not as hard on his own dcs because he doesn't want to upset them before they go to their mums, they have a 50/50 agreement were as I have mine full time apart from every other weekend! I do still love him, and I'm think he does me but it just doesn't feel the same after everything. But is this just a normal blip in a relationship? I don't know how to get it back ?
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Is this normal for a relationship of 4 years?
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Flippinlife72 · 27/09/2016 10:32
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