Hi, I just wanted some advice from a woman's perspective.
I've caught my partner 4 times flirty messaging other guys over the last 4yrs,we've been together on and off for 14yrs were in our early 40's, it started after our business failed, when she finished the relationship and started dating another guy immediately but it only lasted a month. I've moved out twice but come back. We have a 6yr old daughter.
This time it showed up on the bill that she'd sent 190 txts to the same number over 3dys while at work,she has a responsible job earning 30k a yr which is the worrying thing. Upon being challenged she won't tell me what's gone on and just turns everything back on me.
I think I get the jist that she needs attention, she says there's nothing in it.
I have a daughter who I hadn't previously had contact with for 14yrs who keeps asking for money and my partner had seen the messages,she's furious and keeps bringing this up.
I have got a house set up to move into "AGAIN" and my partner said its up to me to decide what I want as apparently I've thrown the other 3 times I've caught her back in her face when we've argued.
She says she loves me and fancies me but I just don't know what to do, I love her but can't keep going through the stomach churning process when it happens.
On the flip side I think should I just accept that this is the way she is and take it with a pinch of salt that every now and again she likes some attention and a bit of flirty fun??
Your posts would greatly appreciated and if any of you have been in this situation your feelings on this would help me to understand why.
Thanks
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My partner keeps messaging other guys
Confusedparty · 27/09/2016 07:32
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