Posting for my friend as she doesn't have an account but she really wants opinions on what she should do.
She is 53, just going through the last stages of divorce to a very controlling man. Has been OLD for the last 18 months, and met some right fruitcakes, although one guy who she was briefly seeing last year has become a good friend and regularly pops over for a chat. No sexual relationship between them at all for a year or so.
She met another guy 6 weeks ago, who she really likes, in a big way. He lives quite far away, and when they first met they were chatting about their OLD experiences and she told him about the guy who had become a good friend. Since then, every weekend new man has come to stay with her for 3 or more nights, with the exception of last weekend because he was seeing his daughter.
Just so happened that on Friday, me and the guy who is now her friend helped her move the last of her stuff from what was the marital home, as it's about to be sold. As a thank you, she invited me and this guy over for some food and drinks on Saturday. While we were there, the new guy phoned and my friend told him she had asked us over, and he asked where the male friend would be staying. She replied that he had had quite a few drinks so she was hoping he would stay in the spare room rather than drive home. This is what ended up happening, and he was gone by the time she woke in the morning.
New guy has got a right cob on that other guy stayed at hers, was really off with her yesterday and then no contact at all today until she phoned him, and he was being very shirty and obviously didn't want to talk to her.
She can see why he is pissed off - if the tables were turned she would probably feel a bit weird about him having an ex sleeping in his spare room, but at the same time she doesn't want to have to sack the other guy off as a friend just because she is seeing the new guy. The feeling is that that is what she would have to do to rectify this, or at the very least not have him at her house anymore.
So now there is a bit of a stand off, she is really upset at the thought of losing the new guy but at the same time doesn't want to be dictated to about who she should or shouldn't be friends with. What would you do, if you were her?
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My friend is in a pickle
hooveringhamabeads · 26/09/2016 20:52
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