I have a son who still lives at home and is almost eighteen. He has a fairly close, platonic friendship with a young woman he went to school with (I'll use the false name, Mary.) Mary moved into the area a couple of years ago and they have been friends - socialising together fairly often since. Therefore I know Mary and my son knows Mary's mother, although I wouldn't say the relationships are close IYSWIM.
I have never liked Mary's mother unfortunately. I find her shallow and narcissistic - one of those people who is superficially very charming and gushy (the first time she met me she went on and on about how wonderful and beautiful I was - we'd only just met for goodness sake!) but who soon loses interest and is on to the next thing. I am not the only one who finds her this way, in fact I don't think she really has any female friends at all. She is the kind of woman men often love though - extremely attractive and flirtatious - she clearly gets a lot of validation from her looks and the male attention they garner.
Aaaanyway, my son recently told me, in a nonplussed kind of way, that Mary's mother had been sending him messages over social media in the middle of the night. There was one had been sent at about one in the morning telling him he looked like a male celebrity, calling him darling, and ending with kisses. Then another at five in the morning saying she hoped he and I were "friends again" (we had recently had a row). Then the next day she sent him a photo of the celebrity she was talking about clarifying that she thought he looked like a young version of him.
My son clearly feels a bit weirded out, not just by the content of the messages but by the time they have been sent as well. He is assuming she was drunk (she's a big drinker).
And my question is: am I being overly prickly because I don't like her? Or is her behaviour really inappropriate? He's not yet eighteen and she is around forty. I'm trying to put myself in her shoes. Would I message one of my sons friends in the night calling them darling and adding kisses thinking it was harmless? I really wouldn't, and I know some of them very well. I would worry about it being misinterpreted at the very least.
What do you think?
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Sons friends mother behaving inappropriately?
worriednotsure · 25/09/2016 20:42
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