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Moving out tomorrow

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Badhairday1001 · 24/09/2016 21:23

I don't really know why I'm posting but I haven't told anyone in rl. Me and my partner have not been getting along at all, we have argued a lot and had long periods of not speaking. I feel guilty because it is me who is unhappy but I also feel he has contributed to the situation by leaving weed around the house despite us having 3 children and knowing that I despise it, falling asleep on the couch every night because he has been playing on stupid on line games and messaging/ flirting with a woman who he met through the game. Anyway I wasn't happy and didn't want to live like that, I felt very alone and like I was living with a teenager. I told him this and he did make more of an effort like helping with the children and helping a bit more around the house but our communication never improved. We have got along well for about 3 days this week but then argued about choosing a high school for our son. Today he has been really nasty and swore at me in front of the kids, he then stormed in earlier and told me to look in to moving out and then stormed back out again. My mums away on holiday so I have packed some stuff and and moving in there with the kids tomorrow. I've explained to them that it's just a break but that me and their dad have not been getting along so it's also a chance to try to decide what's best for us as a family. I feel so guilty and sad, everyone thinks I'm so happy and have a great life but I'm not.

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gamerchick · 24/09/2016 21:27

Why are you moving out? He should be the one leaving rather than take the kids away.

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Badhairday1001 · 24/09/2016 21:29

I hate the house for one and feel too worn down for the battle of trying to get him out.

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Luvjubs · 25/09/2016 01:38

Sorry op.
Who's name is the house in? Is it owned/rented? Are you a sahm? Please think carefully before you leave, I know you don't like the house but you don't want to end up not having a home for your children

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Luvjubs · 25/09/2016 01:38

Ideally he should be leaving

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