Background, together but not living together for a few years due to his drinking. Have a young daughter. He was coming round every day apart from weekends when he would go off on a bender and who knows what else. When he was here it was meant to be to see our daughter, it was clear he was not interested as he would either just rifle through my cupboards then sit on the couch sleeping/watching tv.
Dont ask why I put up with this so long, I don't know why, he always promised to change, I ended up so sick of it all and felt drained and used. I ended it for good after he was meant to come and watch dd so I could go to a course on a Saturday (silly me) and he didn't turn up. It was the straw that broke the camels back.
He has been coming round banging on the doors and windows shouting to dd after he finishes work every night. I told him he can see dd whenever he wants, but not in my house, he needs to pick her up. This apparently is not good enough. He needs to see her in my house, I haven't allowed this, so he hasn't seen her apart from banging on the windows and peering in. I said I had spoken to the police (I hadn't) about him doing this and they said I was to phone them when he appears. This worked for about one day.
He has just left again, shouting that he can't get his car insurance as everything is under my password on his laptop (I have never used his laptop), he doesn't give a fuck about the police and he is going to smash my fucking head in.
I am used to the verbal abuse and manipulation but he has never threatened me.
How the hell do I get him to just leave me alone and stop him coming round. Will it blow over as its still early days?
I am going to have to go through the child maintenance service as there is no way he is going to keep paying for dd and worried about that as well.
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trappedinsuburbia · 24/09/2016 11:19
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