I'm the one who's ex bugged her living room then threatened to kill her and is being a shit about contact ever since.
He takes the ad hoc approach to contact. Texting to ask if he can take one to the park at such time or at the last minute.
It may seem like a little thing, but today I just said 'no' (well, I also said it was too late, but no sorry, or excuses!!)
He text at 6pm asking to take our 2 yr old to the park for an hour. Wtf!
I am in a programme to understand what happened between us and already I feel so much stronger, so much more in control.
And instead of the usual response of giving in or apologising and trying to arrange a better time or explain my answer I just said 'no, it's too late now'
I then jittered around all nervous for a while cos I didn't get a reply and history has taught me that he will be pissed off.
Such a tiny thing really but I'm so proud of me. I wanted to share this with someone!!
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I said no to STBXH today
GettingScaredNow · 22/09/2016 23:01
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