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He used prostitutes

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SpectacularIdiot · 21/09/2016 23:00

I don't even know why I'm shocked after all he's put me through.

We're now divorced. He was mentally and financially and now I know sexually abusive.

I can't say about other recent stuff as it is too identifying but I posted under this name on the other place board a few months ago. It went through court and he's not allowed our son in his house (our marital home).

I feel sick and don't know what to do with this. Nothing to do I guess.i am just totally weirded out.

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Iamdobby63 · 21/09/2016 23:18

Just be grateful you are well out of it. Move on with your life and be happy.

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Mamatallica · 21/09/2016 23:29

I hope you've got yourself checked out at the STI clinic? Sounds like you are well rid.

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SpectacularIdiot · 21/09/2016 23:36

I discovered this half an hour ago. We split up over 2 years ago.

He had them in our house

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Obsidian77 · 21/09/2016 23:40

No advice, just a hand hold . Is there a friend or family member you can talk to?
What he did was no reflection on you. How have you just learned this?

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SpectacularIdiot · 21/09/2016 23:46

He has an online name that I've become aware of through court proceedings. Not sure why but I did a Google search. Maybe because he was vile yesterday at pick up/drop off. Our ds is 5.

He left 'reviews' on a forum men use to find prostitutes.

I am 100% sure it's him. The dates are when I was away. I checked. It's his writing style.

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DoctorTwo · 22/09/2016 00:08

He used prostitutes, that shows his opinion on women. He left ratings on a website What a fucking prize.

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HelenaDove · 22/09/2016 00:13

What a vile vile human being. So sorry you have found this out OP

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FunnyTummy · 22/09/2016 12:02

Like pp's have said . . .count yourself lucky that you are away from him. he sounds absolutely disgusting.

xxx

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Dowser · 22/09/2016 18:13

It's ok...mine did too.
I found out after he left.
Got checked out. AIDS test everything and was fine...thank god.
Mine had probably used them all our married life.
He worked down the docks as a teenage apprentice so would know where to go.
Told my son you could get one for £500 all night in Dubai and he thought he'd caught some sexually transmitted disease when he worked in the Ukraine.
Horrible man...horrible fat twatty little man!

It's awful op, but you've moved on and he'll always be a wanker

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SpectacularIdiot · 22/09/2016 19:07

Thanks. It's handing our beautiful son over to him that upsets me. The thought he brought them into our house, our bed. Our son was 2 years old.

Growing up i feel sick at the thought he might encourage our son to do this and influence his attitude to women. I can only hope my son will be a good man and reject his father's horrible ideas. I will do my damnedest to raise him that way.