Hi I was just wondering if anyone can give advice on my situation. I've been with my partner 8 years now and have two children together 5 and 1. We get on really well and everyone thinks we are perfect for each other and is a full hands on dad amazing to me and his kids, but lately I've been struggling with the way he spends money. I don't work as I stay at home with our baby, whilst my partner works full time. Every month he gets paid and I dread the day! As it only last 2-3 days tops! We pay bills, and other things firstly then before we know it my partner has spent the rest ( without saving for transport to work and back and other things he needs through the month! ) and nothing to show for the money spent! then the rest of the month I provide the money ( our kids money ) to get him back and forth from work, food, gas, electric and other things we need to get by through the month! He will say shal we go for a meal on payday but if we don't that day we never have the opportunity to do so as the money is gone 2 days later. I'm never treated to a night away or a surprise in any shape or form and is starting to get me down as I look after the kids all the time and seem to provide for them mostly ( because he never saves for a family day out ) I tell him all the priorities that we need first but somehow forgets the priorities until it's to late and the money has gone! Which ends up me having to make ends meet at some point! I never treat myself and everything I get goes on the kids and my partner! I'm struggling to see a future as I'm always finding solutions ( to save the money ) whilst my partner agrees but then still manages to spend the money! I'm very close to tell him to leave and just give me set money for the kids each month because he's only ever sorry for it when it's all gone and can see me struggling for 3-4 weeks! I love him dearly and just wish he would listen and help me out by saving for at least 1 family day out! As it's making me feel like a single mum with ( hands on help ) and no financial help! But I can do that on my own. It's starting to feel like I have another child to look after that can't wait to spend his pocket money as soon as he gets it! It's a major problem to me because am constantly annoyed the day he gets paid and puts me in a bad mood for days after. Any advice would be helpful at this point as I am loosing the will to care anymore about our relationship.
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