I've been with him 2.5 years and we live together.
I live rent free but pay bills and stuff, he won't have me paying rent so I can't take him to court and claim the flat is partly mine or something. I work full time.
He can be very sweet and supportive sometimes.
I do most of the housework. He expects me to buy specific brands of loo roll, handwash, washing powder and gets upset if I don't. I have to greet him at the door every night and listen to him talk about his day for 30 minutes. He drinks too much and comes home in a bad mood at least once a week.
He has on occasion looked at my text messages where I was moaning about him and his parents to friends and this caused a row. I have since changed my password and now delete any texts or discuss with friends in person!
He keeps saying he wants to get engaged but then he says rubbish like "well I was just about to propose but then we had an argument / I changed jobs / bought a flat..."
Sulks if he doesn't get sex.
Would it be awful of me to plan to leave but not tell him (as he would probably tell me to get out there and then with nowhere to go and be angry at me). He has never been physically abusive but I feel he is somewhat controlling...
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