My DH is brilliant in most ways, we've had our ups and downs but we are on track and have a lovely family but what is really gripping my shit is the way he talks to me.
He talks me like crap sometimes, it's the way he says things which he could do in a much nicer way. His dad does exactly the same to his mum so I'm guessing that he's grown up with it and thinks nothing of speaking to me like it too. The difference being that I won't put up with it. When I mention it to him he just says "it's the way I talk" to which my response is "it wasn't when we first got together because if it was, I doubt I would've stuck around". He just says I'm hormonal
It's causing real tension at times in our relationship, I'm very defensive when he does speak to me badly and now just take myself off to bed.
He genuinely doesn't think he is doing anything wrong and I believe him when he says he doesn't mean to upset me but I bloody hate it and I don't want my DS thinking it's okay to speak to women that way or my DD thinking it's okay to be spoken to this way.
I don't want to hear LTB please but would like some advice.
I'm thinking of suggesting couples counselling so that he can hear from someone else that it's not acceptable to speak to people (it's not just me that he does it to) the way he does as he thinks it only bothers me around my time of the month so therefore it's my issue.
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"It's just the way I talk"
Ellarose85 · 21/09/2016 09:19
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