I feel so mad that I still allow my XH to disappoint me! Background is XH left me two years ago for OW, now divorced and I have moved on. We're virtually NC apart from the odd text about youngest DD.
Anyway my darling dad died about two weeks ago and yesterday was the funeral. It's been a tough couple of weeks, we're a very close family and my lovely mum is heartbroken. I have been trying to hold everything together , helping my mum and dealing with her grief as well as my children's at the loss of their grandad. I have a lovely new partner who has been incredibly supportive, but I am so disappointed in my XH , he hasn't bothered to text me or my lovely mum or send her a card, even though him and my parents were I thought very close during our 26 years together. My youngest told him that grandad had died and he texted back saying he was there if she or her brother or sister needed him, but then .... Nothing. No text to his kids on the day of the funeral, I half expected him to turn up at the funeral and I genuinely wouldn't have minded but nothing..... Why do I allow myself to still feel disappointed in him? I know he's an Arse, I know he wants to wipe us out of his life but but I can't believe his apathy...Has anyone else experienced similar or does the fact I'm disappointed in him mean on some level I still care about what he says and does? I'd hate to think that was the case. This is by far not the first time he's disappointed me since I discovered his affair, I want to feel nothing but he continues to be able to....
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Why does he still manage to disappoint me?
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startingover231 · 20/09/2016 23:18
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