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My friend is begging a man who isn't interested to have sex with her

(10 Posts)
HerFaceIsAMapOfTheWorld Mon 19-Sep-16 18:02:26

I feel bad for her and I hear about him all the time, I just feel like she is embarrassing herself. This is more WWYD

She has not had sex with this guy since early this year, they use to work together. She told me at work he just use to touch her up and have banter with her. They have never been out on a date together and even when her, him and a few others from work went to a festival she told me he was chatting up other girls in front of her.

Recently she told me how she was texting him saying she is horny and he needs to come to her house for the weekend, he replied saying its my friends birthday. Every time she invites him over there is an excuse and she just says he must be gay how can he not want me.
From this comment I can imagine the stuff she texts him!

She has asked me if I think its a good idea for her to book a weekend in France for him and her which I of course said no, I honestly don't even think he would come anyway.

The guy is ignoring her and now she is upset over it and has been going on for the last hour about him. This guy is clearly not interested in her but she is constantly begging him.

I have not told her my true feelings on this because I don't want to upset her but I feel she is embarrassing herself here and looking like a stalker. He also lives with a female and it is unsure if she is his girlfriend or not.

Do you think I should just stay out of it and keep listening or tell her what I truly think?

I just want to add as well that a guy I am seeing she keeps asking me to be hooked up with one of his friends but seeing how a bit possessive she is with this guy who is clearly trying to get rid of her makes me not want to, I really like this guy and I am not having anyone mess it up for me.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 19-Sep-16 18:18:15

Why would setting her up with your boyfriend's friend mess up your relationship? Is he so fickle that he would drop you if their relationship fizzled?

Are you actually helping her? It's not clear from your post.

reallyanotherone Mon 19-Sep-16 18:21:23

That's sexual harrassment isn't it.

Imagine if you were posting the same about a bloke constantly asking a girl for sex.

I'd point that out to her. Tell her just because she's female it doesn't mean she can harrass guys.

HerFaceIsAMapOfTheWorld Mon 19-Sep-16 18:42:42

LyingWitch I don't know I just don't want anything to ruin what I have with this guy and if she turns possessive over the friend I don't want it to mess up anything between me and my guy.

reallyan I agree with you but she will never see it as that but really it is

Seeyouontheotherside Mon 19-Sep-16 19:07:21

Tell her the truth; she's coming across as very stalkery and creepy. Explain that most men will jump at easy sex, for him to be making so many excuses not to shows how not into (and potentially creeped out) he is.

Don't set her up with your new boyfriends friend. Why would you inflict someone like that on someone who has done you no wrong? It would be cruel.

Heathontheright Mon 19-Sep-16 19:11:11

You need to tell her. If it was my friend I'd probably be quite blunt about it of it is as bad as you say. Before she gets herself in trouble.
Cruel to be kind & all that!

pictish Mon 19-Sep-16 19:14:10

If she were my friend she would be told what I think. Kindly but fairly bluntly.

Classybird36 Mon 19-Sep-16 19:31:20

Keep her well away from your fella's mates, she's a liability!

coconutpie Mon 19-Sep-16 19:52:25

Tell her the truth! She is making a complete fool of herself and is being a total pest to this guy. Time to be blunt. Be a real friend and tell her she must stop it.

TheNaze73 Mon 19-Sep-16 21:29:41

They both sound like wrong un's. Him for touching her up at work & her for being a bar shit sex pest

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