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When someone doesn't like you

(5 Posts)
CountryLifeMummy Mon 19-Sep-16 11:48:31

So, I was friends with someone who I shared a hobby with for a couple of years. I still do this hobby but not nearly as much as I used to. I used to really have a laugh with them and would definitely call them a friend. We drifted apart but would bump into each other and and it would be fairly normal. Recently thought they have been obviously very "offl" with me and makes it really clear they do not like me. It is making me not want to go to the venue where the hobby is at all as they make it so awkward for me! I see them around as well and I'm not sure how to move forward. I suffer with social anxiety so I am really struggling with it every time I see them.
Should I just carry on smiling, asking how they are etc?

Shoxfordian Mon 19-Sep-16 11:49:46

Just carry on going to do your hobby but avoid them; you can't make everyone like you so shrug your shoulders about it

ElspethFlashman Mon 19-Sep-16 11:52:09

Absolutely. Look utterly oblivious and serene at all times. Fake it till you make it.

If she has gotten ticked off with you over some spurious reason then she will be subconsciously looking to validate that reason. Don't give her any excuse. Channel Mirandas Mum ("must dash - such fun!") at all times.

CountryLifeMummy Mon 19-Sep-16 12:20:06

Thank you. Great advise! Deep breath and smile

CitizenBloom Mon 19-Sep-16 12:23:13

You have zero control over how anyone else feels about you or responds to you. If she is actually doing something specific and overt to make your life at this hobby venue difficult, then by all means act on that, but if it's a vague feeling on your part rather than concrete behaviour on hers, and the hobby is something you genuinely value, don't let an old friendship ruin it for you and don't give it any headspace. It's not your problem.

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