Regular, but nc for this. I'm nc with my 'd'm for about 10yrs now. I cut her off for many very good reasons. The flying monkeys have recently started up with some very inventive ways to get in touch and if not with me, with my dc instead. My dm is trying every creepy way in the book to wheedle her way into my kids lives. The latest is a party invitation from a distant step-relative my 19yo has never met/or heard of and I'm guessing my dm will be there too. Anyway, I'm now having therapy for this and as part of my situation I'd like to ask 'What do you get out of having a mum?' -whilst I consider whether I want to resume contact or not? What might I gain? It's easy for me to see the negatives but what might the positives be? I'm mid 40s, she's 67. What are the nice bits of having a mum? My experience of having a mum is abandonment, shame, pain and humiliation. I wonder if she might really be a changed person? So tell me what nice mums are like? What things do you do together? How do you relate to one another?
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