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Sleep talking he says it's over

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lounear35 Sun 18-Sep-16 23:58:58

Ok so my dh is asleep and in his sleep mutters it's over for a joke I reply what's over and he replies my marriage!!! We've been thru a rocky patch lately with him getting caught looking at soft porn. We don't cuddle anymore and it's been a month since sex... what do I do I'm scared

gamerchick Mon 19-Sep-16 00:09:53

Ah he's asleep man, you can't hold it against him. He could be subconsciously fearing it or anything.

You need to have an honest conversation with him about your relationship if you're worried.... When he's awake!

amazingtracy Mon 19-Sep-16 01:47:34

I reversed my car over a bunch of people the other night............according to my nocturnal ramblings.

All a total stream of unconscience shit!

chipmonkey Mon 19-Sep-16 01:53:39

My son dreamt he shot BIL last week. In real life he wouldn't lift a finger to harm anyone! Maybe your dh dreamt you had run off with that Poldark guy and didn't feel he could compete?

MsStricty Mon 19-Sep-16 03:28:31

I'd be more interested in what's happening in your relationship when you're awake, OP.

GruochMacAlpin Mon 19-Sep-16 04:03:26

I talk in my sleep.

I ask my Mum to switch off the light.
I give book reviews of books I haven't read.
I give the children DH a telling off for stuff that hasn't happened.
I have a terrifying recurring dream about giraffes. Awake I'm not the least bit frightened for giraffes.
I shout about Red Indians chasing me. Awake I'd say Native American and I haven't watched a western in about 35 years.

I'm asleep, goodness knows what's happening in my brain but it's nothing to with real life.

Talk to your DH in the morning. Tell him what happened and how frightened you were.

VioletBam Mon 19-Sep-16 04:34:37

I told DH to "count the cakes! For God's sake! Count the cakes!" in my sleep not long ago.

You can't worry about it OP!

NerrSnerr Mon 19-Sep-16 05:00:58

He's asleep. I told my husband 'fuck you' in my sleep the other week. I didn't mean anything of the sort because he's lovely.

DeathStare Mon 19-Sep-16 05:06:11

When we were first together my DP told me to sleep with his (named) friend in his sleep. We still laugh about it now. (We never told the friend!)

whattodowiththepoo Mon 19-Sep-16 05:33:33

I tried to run over the queen in a dream and apparently talked about corgis, it means nothing.

phillipp Mon 19-Sep-16 07:02:31

I talk in my sleep. I once asked dh 'so who is it that you are shagging?'

I didn't suspect he was sleeping with someone, it hadn't even entered my head. I have no idea where it came from.

You say you are having bad patch, perhaps he was dreaming about that.

Mines worse if I have a lot in my mind or stressed.

JedRambosteen Mon 19-Sep-16 07:07:17

How do you know it's you he's breaking up with in his sleep? Could be the OW. wink Honestly, people dream all sorts of random shit.

Joysmum Mon 19-Sep-16 07:16:25

What a great opportunity for you. This could be the Carlisle that makes you examine your marriage and allows you both to improve it.

If this had happened in a string marriage you'd have brushed it off and not let it upset you. The fact that you haven't means your marriage can be improved.

flanjabelle Mon 19-Sep-16 07:45:23

It's more likEly that he is scared of the marriage being over and is working it through in his sleep. I think you need to talk to him op. How frightened you are, and the fact it is playing on his mind like this shows you both care. You need to talk.

TheNaze73 Mon 19-Sep-16 08:24:46

What was the real issue? Are you seriously holding him to account for sleep talking?? what do you mean getting "caught" watching soft porn. It sounds like a parent child relationship

LellyMcKelly Mon 19-Sep-16 16:41:07

My daughter told me she liked towels in her sleep a few weeks ago. It doesn't mean anything.

OurBlanche Mon 19-Sep-16 17:14:28

Having been recentyl grabbed by sleeping DH and told, in a very menacing voice "DSis put that there so YOU.WILL.NOT.TOUCH.IT" I would agree, he may not have meant anything by it. He is asleep... ask him about it. Use it to start a conversation about your lack of intimacy.

Oh, should say, DH and his DSis have not even seen each other for about 16 years and he has no idea what 'that' might have been!

That and, he is often aggressive if woken from a deep sleep, so I usually call his name from the other side of the room. This time I brushed past him asleep on the couch and got grabbed.

And yes, I do appreciate that that sounds odd, but he isn't at all aggressive when awake. It's just one of those things we have adjusted to!

BreatheDeep Mon 19-Sep-16 18:17:32

I have talked and sleep walked most of my life. Nothing that ever happens to me in a dream is anything like what I'm thinking in real life.

But I think the fact you are concerned about it speaks volumes and you should talk to your husband about the issues you're having. If I heard my husband say that I wouldn't be concerned at all. I'd just joke about it.

Lilacpink40 Mon 19-Sep-16 18:23:51

For a joke you asked him what was over. Did part of you think it could be a reference to your marriage?

Do you feel that it's over or that it can be saved?

If the latter, take action now as waiting just makes it less likely as the distance between you can grow.

Mikkalina Mon 19-Sep-16 21:51:40

Are you sure he was asleep and didn't make it sound like he was sleep talking? Otherwise, looks like there's nothing to worry about.

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